Last night we (my ex-husband and I) checked out a parents' support group for parents who have or had their kids treated at this residential treatment facility over in the next county. I thought it was a very positive experience and the parents there had nothing but positive things to say about the program.
The Ex has been very reluctant about treatment for our daughter. He is not convinced that she has done drugs or has an eating disorder. He wants to believe that she is just saying all these things to create drama, to manipulate us. But I think he is finally accepting the fact that even if she is "just" lying as he thinks, that is indicative of very serious emotional and behavioral problems. Problems we are not equipped to handle.
One of the huge benefits of the meeting was that he was able to hear things from other parents that he has not been able to hear from me. As they talked about their kids, we heard echoes of what we have been experiencing with our daughter the past three years. And we got a glimpse of our future if we don't get this under control.
When we mentioned that our daughter was 14, one of the parents said "Its good that you caught this early" and I laughed out loud. Not because I thought she was an idiot but because, as ridiculous as that statement sounds, I totally believe it and agree with her. And I think only the parent of an addicted child can understand that.
I hope to put her into the program tomorrow but The Ex is still holding out. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.
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