So now that I've done my bitching about what not to say, can I tell you the best thing people have said to me? It was to tell me that 1) you are here for me 2) you want to know what is going on and how you can help, but 3) AND THIS IS THE BEST THING... you will not ask me about this situation, that we do not have to talk about it unless I bring it up.
What a relief (for me)! So good to know that this crisis is not going to be the definition, the all-consuming topic, the focal point of our relationship moving forward. That I can pretend or be in denial if that is what I need in the moment. That I can be who I was (before this happened) with you. That when this is all over, you and I will be the friends that we have always been.
Thank you for that.
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